Develop confidence, presence and self-trust — without forcing personality changes
Social confidence isn’t about becoming louder, more extroverted, or someone you’re not.
It’s about how you show up when you’re around people — how steady you feel internally, how much you trust yourself, and how freely you can express what you think, feel and want.
Many people don’t experience strong anxiety, but still struggle with:
- Hesitation or self-doubt in social situations
- Overthinking what to say or how they’re coming across
- Holding back opinions, humour or personality
- Feeling smaller than they are around others
- Losing confidence under pressure
- Wanting to be more present, natural or assertive
This work focuses on building confidence from the inside out — through state, identity and nervous-system regulation — not surface-level “confidence tricks”.
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What Social Confidence Really Is
Social confidence is not the absence of nerves.
It’s the ability to stay grounded, expressive and self-directed even when attention, pressure or uncertainty are present.
At its core, social confidence involves:
- Internal steadiness
- Self-trust
- Reduced self-monitoring
- Freedom of expression
- Comfort with being seen and heard
When these are present, confidence feels natural, not performed.
Who This Coaching Is For
Social Confidence & Self-Belief Coaching is well suited to people who:
- Don’t identify with strong social anxiety
- Feel capable, but under-expressed
- Hold back socially despite wanting to engage more
- Want to speak more freely and authentically
- Feel confident in some settings but not others
- Want confidence that holds under pressure
If anxiety or fear responses are dominant, we always address those first.
When anxiety isn’t the main issue, this coaching focuses on development rather than recovery.
Common Areas We Work On
This coaching often supports people with:
- Confidence in conversations and groups
- Assertiveness and boundaries
- Speaking up at work or in meetings
- Leadership presence
- Dating and social ease
- Confidence under observation or evaluation
- Self-belief in new or unfamiliar situations
The aim is not to change your personality — but to remove what’s suppressing it.
How This Work Is Different From “Confidence Coaching”
Many approaches focus on behaviour:
“Say this.”
“Stand like that.”
“Fake it until you make it.”
That can work temporarily — but often collapses under pressure.
This work focuses on:
- Internal state
- Nervous-system regulation
- Identity and self-perception
- Reducing internal interference
- Accessing confident states reliably
When the internal state changes, behaviour follows naturally.
How I Work With Social Confidence
Sessions are calm, practical and conversational.
We typically work with:
- Internal dialogue and self-belief patterns
- Nervous-system stability under attention
- Reducing self-monitoring and internal noise
- Building access to confident, grounded states
- Strengthening identity and self-trust
- Applying confidence to real-world situations
This is not performance coaching in the motivational sense — it’s precision work on how confidence actually operates in real life
Approaches I Use
🔹 NLP & Cognitive Performance Coaching
To help shift:
- Self-talk and internal framing
- Meaning given to social situations
- Identity-level beliefs
- Automatic hesitation patterns
🔹 State & Nervous-System Regulation
Confidence depends on state.
We work on:
- Calm alertness
- Grounding and presence
- Reducing internal pressure
- Staying regulated while engaged
🔹 Adapted Hypnotherapy (Optional)
Used to:
- Reinforce self-belief
- Stabilise confident states
- Reduce unconscious inhibition
No visualisation is required — this is fully adaptable to non-visual thinkers.
What Progress Looks Like
Clients often notice:
- Less hesitation and self-editing
- Greater ease in conversations
- Stronger sense of presence
- Confidence that holds under pressure
- Feeling more like themselves socially
- Expression without overthinking
Confidence becomes something you access, not something you try to manufacture.
Social Confidence vs Social Anxiety
Social confidence coaching is not a substitute for anxiety work.
- If fear, panic or strong avoidance is present → anxiety is addressed first
- When anxiety is low or absent → confidence development becomes effective
Many people naturally move from anxiety work into confidence coaching — but the two are intentionally kept distinct.
Sessions & Locations
I offer Social Confidence & Self-Belief Coaching in:
- Reading, Berkshire — weekday sessions
- Didcot, Oxfordshire — Tuesdays
- Online — UK & worldwide via Zoom or Teams
Sessions are:
- One-to-one
- Calm and non-judgemental
- Practical and personalised
Key Point
Social confidence isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about removing what blocks you from being yourself — calmly, clearly and with self-trust.
MAIL@THEEXCELPRACTICE.COM OR CALL 07807 540142
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Social Anxiety Disorder by definition by the NHS and that is connected to gaining social confidence please click – HERE