Mindfulness and becoming mindful using time line therapy, hypnosis, NLP to overcome those few root causes which you may need some help with; and also those few situations around anxiety where just a little help may be required, mindfulness will help you to be more present and in the moment; and therefore to be more in control and take control of your life 


This is a subject which is so easy to do, once you’ve understood and started practicing it – that it can seem a little difficult to explain. However I will try now.

To begin with you will need to understand the idea of 3 different types of time:

  • The Now and Present Moment
  • Clock Time
  • Psychological Time

The now and present moment is the only time we are ever really in and that would be ever moment we are in, once a moment has happened and been experienced its then in the past

“There are no ordinary moments” – Dan Millman

Clock time is the continuous running of the clock, the seconds running into minutes and hours, then days … weeks, months and years. Clock time is still important for many things such being at work on time, being on time for trains and planes (not that trains and planes always run on time)

Psychological time has 2 sides to it, the past and the future. From the past people can be in the grips of negatives feelings such as depression, sadness, resentment, grievances, bitterness and non-forgiveness. And towards the future people can feel that they experience anxiety, unease, tension, stress, worry and fear.

Things which happened in the past, happened in the past and if there is something that you are hanging on to or that you feel won’t let go, then you need to make a choice. The 3 choices are and maybe depending on the past situation or memory:

  • Remove yourself from it
  • Change it
  • Totally accept it

In as far as the future, it hasn’t happened yet. So using your time, energy and imagination on something which hasn’t happened is not a good use of your time, your energy or your imagination.

Remember that we are only in the present and because we are only ever truly in the present then the past now doesn’t exist and neither does the future.

Being mindful, and using mindfulness and in the present moment therefore is the only place we will ever be and when things happen I the present which can make us feel negative – angry, resentful, anxious, bitter, start feeling down or worried for whatever reason – that although that will have a cause. The cause will be something within, within your thoughts and feelings or will be something you’ve noticed externally via your senses which will then cause an inner noticed thought or feeling. Basically there will be a feedback loop from inner and outer.

Using mindfulness you become aware of your present moment and the feelings and thoughts you are experiencing and awknowgle them, accept them and embrace them – whatever they may be. You can decide whether you want to:

  • Remove yourself from a situation, circumstance or person (or combination).
  • Do something to change it
  • Totally accept it

All 3 of the above work because you are taking control and ownership of the situation, of as much as you can. Therefore you make a choice to gain control, gaining control of your mind, your thoughts, emotions and the situation.

And remember you’re only ever in the current and present moment. You’re never in the past or future. Mindfulness will show you this.

If there is something in the past which is real bother and sometimes that can be something you’re not fully aware of or maybe don’t remember the reason why it began, the root cause effectively. If there is a root cause and whether it is known or not it can be a good idea to seek some help in addressing this with the help of a highly trained and skilled therapist.

By using a time-line approach you can then access the memory where a problem started and then using hypnosis or NLP (or something similar) be assisted in being able to look, think and feel differently about the original significant emotion event.

Just to state here, with most people there will be very few things which will have such a negative effect on a person and there will be no need to spend any significant amount of time in therapy. For many, many people once you’ve dealt with the major issues the others, the smaller ones won’t seem as bad and in many cases they often resolve themselves.

Some brief videos below on mindfulness and from Eckhart Tolle and the Power of Now.

A Pragmatic Guide to the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle – Animation – his version of Mindfulness
Daily Calm | 10 Minute Mindfulness Meditation | Be Present

A question: Would you rather have more confidence or less anxiety?

I would describe confidence as situational competence, the better or more competence someone becomes as something then the more competence they will gain and more competent they will become.

Connected to confidence is self-esteem, which I would describe as being more central to the person and how they feel about themselves. And related to self-worth, entitlement, the worthiness and generally how someone feels about and within their own skin.

Anxiety is best described as something which hasn’t happened yet. And just like the future it hasn’t happened, yet.  People can use their imaginations very badly and this will need to be put in check. Hypnotherapy, coaching and NLP can also help with this – particularly if there’s something which seems out of control. However again it will typically only one or a small few things which may need some help with – and other things will short themselves out.

Mindfulness itself is an easy practice to use and doesn’t take long to master. I can help to get you started and also I can help you to get over the major hurdles and problems.

Please do ask any questions on how mindfulness can help you

Call 07807 540142  or  Email today and working in-person and online for help with some mindfulness


Positive Psychology is a comparatively new and intersting field of psychology which concentrates of how to make things better for the person and concentrates on these aspects. Whereas in mainstream psychology the basis on why things go wrong and trying to understand why. Positive psychology is only really interested in how to make things go right and because of this the results are both better and also quicker yielding vast improvements and increased levels of positive feelings and overall happiness in a short space of time.

Positive Psychology itself is founded on the belief that people want to lead happy, meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within themselves, and to enhance their experiences of love, work, and play. Some ways in which it can help is by focusing on what you want and how to achieve that by using positive qualities, strengths, capabilities, values, beliefs and affirmations.

It is known that reducing stress and anxiety reduces blood pressure, the heart rate and improve the immune system; and by focusing on ideas around positive thought, actions and creating a healthier and more beneficial environment those individuals will feel better within themselves and thrive. By using a combination of ideas from positive psychology, hypnosis, NLP, breathing techniques, EFT and other ideas that may benefit you such as exercise, healthy eating, meditation and others we can work on improving your life and getting the results you desire and deserve.

Some of the main ideas and principals we will be using come from the ideas of

Martin Seligman the author and originator of Authentic Happiness of which came the idea of positive psychology and the outlook of what can go right. Authentic happiness itself is based around 6 character strengths Wisdom/ Knowledge, Courage, Humanity, Justice Temperance and Transcendence – all of which are then divided into sub groups. He also formulated the ideas around learned helplessness in which although one change the outcome of a learned reaction/ behaviour that they don’t – of course this can be changed.

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi who introduced the idea of Flow and that we are happiest when we are in a state of flow or flowing, when they are fully immersed in what they are doing which in turn leads on to feelings of engagement, absorption and fulfilment.The state of flow is obviously better when we are totally enjoying the activity however we can also do this can also be achieved with changes in our mental state whilst completing other tasks.

Abraham Maslow with the hierarchy of needs – this is based on the theory that people have a strong desire to realise their potential and reach the level of Self Actualisation. The hierarchy is –

Physiological – food, water, excretion, sleep, homeostasis and sex
Safety – security: of body, employment, the family, health, property, morality and resources

Love and Belonging – family, friendship and sexual intimacy

Esteem – self-esteem, confidence, achievement, worthiness, respect by others and respect of others

Self Actualisation – morality, creativity, spontaneity, problem solving, lack of prejudice and acceptance of facts

(Within NLP there is a similar system called the Neuro-Logical Levels of which we will be using as well, in brief these levels are Environmental, Behaviours, Capabilities, Beliefs and Values, the Identity level and a Spiritual, source or Higher Purpose Level)

Barbara Lee Fredrickson and her work around broadening and building positive emotions and from there that positive lead on to greater, expansive and novel experiences and behaviours; then over time these will lead on to better and greater long-term benefits around relationships both with others and internally.

Call 07807 540142  or  Email today and working in-person and online for help with some mindfulness

For online hypnotherapy for timeline therapy and mindfulness please do ask for details on how I can help you with this using on Zoom, Skype, Teams and other on-line technology

A definition of spirituality by Dr Maya Spencer – HERE and how it can connect and work well with mindfulness